I Am So Overwhelmed

I posted on my blog a while back about people who are overwhelmed by all the information they have been getting. They just don’t know what to do. They need to make money fast and can’t seem to do it online. Their common response to this is to sit and spin, to do nothing at all.

Several years ago, my aging mother needed me to care for her. I stepped up to the plate immediately and quit my job (over-the-road truck driver) to stay home and move her into my home. She had five more good years to enjoy her life.

At times, being tied to my house and never getting a break became a bit overwhelming. I even had a few occasions to feel sorry for myself. :0) Mom would gently remind me that she had cared for her Mom and my grandmother had cared for both her parents and her in-laws in their golden years. I wasn’t the only one who ever did this.

She also asked me on one or two of my "Poor Carol" binges if I had regrets. NO!I did not!

When life started getting tough for me and I had no income coming in, I just had to start looking for another route. One road was closed, so I backed up and looked for an alternate route. I knew that my destination was there at the end of the road. I just had to find it.

When it got dark and dangerous and seemed like every step I took forward was forcing me back two steps, I just took bigger steps. Mom was always there to remind me that God would never give me more than I could handle.

What if I hadn’t stepped up and someone less strong and independent than me had tried caring for her? Maybe they wouldn’t have been able to take the mental strain, or have been physically strong enough to lift her and care for her. Maybe they couldn’t have found an alternate way to support her. It could have ruined someone elses life. Mom could have ended up in a home!

I was the lucky one! I was able to work through these overwhelming times and keep focused on that light at the end of the tunnel. I had Mom and my family and friends to support me. (Most of the time.)

Bad things happen to people all the time. Sometimes there is just no way to avoid it. You certainly don’t want to wish that others should suffer what you have. Why would you even want to be exempt from problems? You should be grateful for them, because your problems teach you how to develop your resources and become a better, smarter more resourceful person.

When trouble and hard times overwhelm you and seem almost too much to bear; think about that tunnel. There is always a glimmer of light, of hope, at the end. Just keep going towards that light. It may seem to be a long way off in the distance, but if you focus on that and not the darkness around you, the light will get bigger and brighter. Eventually the sides of the tunnel will be viable and the end will be bright as day as the sunlight pours in.

What I’m trying to say here is that if you just pick one light, one thing that you really believe works, that you know someone else has succeeded at, and focus totally on that as your destination, you will succeed. Don’t keep looking at all the shiney new things glittering there in the dark, because they will distract you, suck up your time and make your trip to success even longer. Focus on that one light that you can see and go toward it constantly, exactly as you’re told and as fast as you can.

Don’t ask "Why Me?" and become so overwhelmed with your bad fortune. Instead see your problems as blessings that will help you toward your goals. Use them to better yourself. Ask "Why Not Me?" instead and follow your light to success.

About The Author

Carol Hansen, a Twitter specialist focusing on building and monetizing with Twitter. You can connect with Carol on Twitter or Facebook and follow her latest projects, blog posts and cool tips on building and monetizing your Twitter following.

4 Responses to “I Am So Overwhelmed”

  1. Betsy Eicher says:

    Dear Carol, I just stumbled upon your twitter page first then your blog, and read this post (overwhelmed). I want to thank you for your inspired writing and encouragement. I’m just starting on this ‘blogging thing’ and having lots of technical difficulties getting the blog up and am on the verge of discouragement. I found your post to be very heartfelt, well written, and encouraging. I also had the opportunity to care for an aging parent and never will regret that time my father lived in our home. I miss him alot and treasure that time we had together. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

  2. Jay says:

    Thanks for following me on Twitter. If you hadn’t I would not have read your very touching story. Both my mom and grandma are elderly, and the day will come when I will go home to care for one or both. I consider it a blessing they are still with me. Their wisdome has gotten me over some very dark and confusing places in my life. Again, thank you.

  3. MC says:

    I also stumbled here through Twitter as well (thanks for following me) and I’m glad I did. This entry is so relevant to so many people right now, including me! It’s funny how different experience can shape us into who we are – we can either let it make us or break us.

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